Once upon time, a long time ago, in a land called middle school, I was in a play. Yes, just one play, and that play was called “Free to Be You and Me.” It had sort of a 70’s vibe. I wore my hair in pigtails. Disappointingly, no boys were imported to my all girls’ school for male roles. …but that’s about all I remember. Actually, the only thing that has really resonated from any middle or upper school play is the following quote from “The Curious Savage:”
People say I love you all the time-when they say ‘take an umbrella, it’s raining,’ or ‘hurry back,’ or even ‘watch out, you’ll break your neck.’ There are hundreds of ways of wording it- you just have to listen for it, my dear.
This quote has been on my mind pretty often recently since this is traditionally time for my Kroger store to become a sea of balloons and greeting cards saying basically the same three words. Right now, many people are expressing their love very clearly, but I can’t help but think of the times, often precious times, when life is too complicated or busy to shout “I love you,” even if that’s what we mean. In my Google research, I found an article listing 40 different ways to say those three words, for example:
- Have you eaten dinner
- Buckle your seatbelt
- How was your day
- I miss you
- Text me
but really the list goes on indefinitely.
My favorite reminder of this many worded love is my grandfather, and my grandparents’ is my favorite real life love story (I think everyone in my family agrees). They have been married over 60 years, and the way my grandfather always begins to tell their story is by noting (with a certain degree of pride) that my grandmother is the only girl he has told, “I love you.” However, being a somewhat curt man, those aren’t always the words he uses to end a phone call. It doesn’t take much imagination, though, to understand that a call just to note that a favorite TV show is playing or a text asking if my grandmother found a comfortable pair of shoes while shopping means the same thing. The message of those short discussions is clear and reminds my grandmother and even us grandchildren that Grandad is “just thinking of us” (one of the phrases on the list) and that we are loved.
So, as Valentine’s Day approaches, I hope you take time to pay attention and notice who is telling you they love you.
Take an umbrella, and hurry back,
Erica
Erica
